Saturday, September 26, 2009

Love and its ignorance

I believe in love and in falling in love. I also believe that most of what's portrayed as love on the silver screen and on TV isn't really anything but people with no qualities falling for each other for trivial reasons. The strange thing, and I didn't come up with this and I forgot where I heard it first, is that people talk about love all the time and yet many, many people who don't go to college fall in love with someone from their town or possibly from the subsection of their city. This suggests that the concept of automatic true love is somewhat off. After all, if you're supposed to hook up with The One shouldn't he or she statistically be someplace else than in your immediate environment? I mean there are close to 300,000,000 people in the United States alone and yet The One is someone who you either grew up with or met possibly through people who you grew up with? College changes the equation some, as do cities, which truth be told do offer greater variety of folks to choose from although I'm not sure that the parochial nature of it all is really voided by them. But four year colleges that recruit from a wide range either from your state or from your region, or even from the entire U.S. itself are probably the best bet short of moving to a better city or state to finding a One, maybe not The One but someone closer. However, there is a price and that is that while there's more variety of people there's more homogeneity in terms of socio-economic background. I think that the United States is one of the worst countries when it comes to really getting folks into higher education who are talented but who aren't rich or well off. If you're working class you may find a One, but that One is likely to be from a different class background than you are, and being in a four year school means that you're likely to be on a career track that is not working class to begin with, meaning that you're not just giving up your class background romantically to find the One but are also of course wedding yourself to bourgeois society in the process of school. And it gets worse the more variety of people from different areas are there. The schools that recruit from across the whole of the U.S. are the ones at the top that are also most likely to have the most elite people in them. Then you go down through regional schools to state schools, that still possess less variety even if they're the best in the state, down to schools that focus on a particular region of a state. The more doable for people without lots of money that a school is the more restricted the variety of people it's likely to have. And of course the higher up in education folks without lots of means get the more strings attached there are likely to be, restricting courses taken in general.

The trend is for working people to get degrees having to do with the sciences, while the more interesting humanities degrees are gotten by folks with more means, even though there are just as many working class folks as non-working class folks who excell at the more right brain creative subjects.

And just to round things off, all this is true despite the much cited figure that loads and loads of people are going to college these days, more than have ever gone in the past in the United States. This may be true but I think based on anecdotal evidence that lots of that enrollment happens in the lower tier state schools.

But love, yeah, love. Maybe the best thing to do is to move to a fertile area for finding the right type of person that you're looking for and see what happens.

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